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    He could have been hetero-romantic, and sexually gay. Or it’s also possible that she was the only woman he loved.

    Sexuality is weird. Anything goes. People get crazy about it when they try to control it. It’s sex. It’s uncontrollable. Just get out of the way of it, and everyone will be a lot happier.

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      I don’t know much about Freddy Mercury (or even sexuality), but couldn’t it also be possible that he STRONGLY admired her, just not in a sexual or romantic way?

      Like, could he be saying something like “if I were into women, I would have married you in a heartbeat”?

      I’m a straight guy and I have friends that I feel similar about

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        He really, absolutely loved her, and she did love him profoundly back. After this, it gets complicated. Maybe she couldn’t bear knowing he was having sex relationships with men. Maybe the issue was the AIDS wave from one or both of their perspectives; Freddy wouldn’t risk her or she wouldn’t risk herself. Maybe she demanded monogamy and he couldn’t give her that. It’s complicated.

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        I’m a straight guy and I have friends that I feel similar about

        …rrriiiggghhhttt, cause that’s something that someone who’s not even a little bit bi in any way would say, okay…

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            No, I’m saying that straight people with 0% repressed bisexuality typically don’t think about whether or not they would marry their same-sex mates if they were only a little more gay…

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    This may be true, but a shitposting community is not the right audience for discourse; hence a lot of these comments being a bit yikes

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      Well, too bad his people thought he was a “vaēpiia”, but that actually means sorcerer poet, not a derogatory term for sodomite. Maybe things could have been different, if only the “traditional” religious interpreters actually listened to the prophet, and not the closed minded folks that came after.

      He was an inspired, frenzied poet, one whose emotions, feelings, and poetry resonate with a vibration, swinging rhythm, and frenzy, after all.

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    If every sexual ecounter you had hasn’t been a threesome you ain’t bi, just gayfluid

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    Ok…but what made things different? I’m confused on the context.

    Also, I’m sure bisexuality would have been considered obscene in the 80s, but today it’s so natural that I don’t think anyone would be offended that he was bi.

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      Oh there are plenty of people offended that bi people exist. Some of them being plain old homophobes (“bi people are just as bad”), some of them being lgbt+ people who think bi people are just indecisive and can’t choose a side/are traitors to the rest of the lgbt+ community (as ridiculous as it sounds).

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        There are minorities or even majorities where hypocrisy is what they prefer. Its downright stupid how inclusiveness is advertised, yet moral gate keeping is what occurs.

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        My reading was that if he wasn’t only attracted to men, but I was assuming he was gay. I still don’t know tbh, since I’m just going off this one picture

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            Well there we have it I guess. I haven’t even watched a documentary on it so I’ll take your word for it.

            In my mind it’s more romantic if the people in the picture had a platonic bond, so that’s my bias, but the world doesn’t revolve around my aesthetic preferences, fortunately.

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              He was involved with her for years, left a love letter, his entire fortune and properties to her out of all his lovers and you think it was platonic?

              Bi-erasure is real and entirely disgusting.

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                He loved her, clearly. But he actually left her because he was gay and needed to pursue physical relationships with other men.
                He presumably was able to get it up with her when they were together so high was likely a bit bi (aren’t we all?), but that he left her while he lover her to be gay makes me think he was much more gay than bi.

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                  Aren’t we all a bit bi?

                  Nope! Only bi people are bi, there are plenty of people with genuinely no attraction to men or no attraction to women.

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        In the 1990s, ellen degeneres had a hit sitcom on ABC. Then she came out as gay. Pepsi, among other advertisers threatened to pull all advertising from ABC.

        So ABC cancelled a show with decent ratings purely because she was gay.

        Now, today we know that ellen is a piece of shit for OTHER reasons, but that wasn’t known in 1996. This was a move based purely on Pepsi and others not wanting to be assosiated with a gay person on their tv.

        Now for the kicker. Ellen had some support, but it was not a majority. The majority of people at that time celebrated ellen getting removed from tv.

        If that happened today? A beloved tv star being removed from tv because they were gay? I think it would have even bigger backlash than CBS is facing right now over Colbert, and 60 Minutes. Back then? America gave the thumbs up.

        Ironically enough, I think being bi would have been MORE accepted in the 1880s.

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          Yes, but that’s Ellen. The show was aimed directly at a “clean” segment of the market that rebelled once it went off the beaten path of white bread situation comedy. Folks knew Queen and Mercury from the 70’s, which were hedonistic as fuck. Not an apples to apples comparison. 🤷🏽‍♂️