Do you think that actors who play doctors on TV would make good surgeons?
No but having something inserted in you at a place that provides pleasure probably would make them pros
Porn stars rarely even have the opportunity for pleasure during filming.
Men are taking penile injections to increase performance, having to stop and cut the video several times. Women are using numbing gels to handle filming the scenes without much pain. Everything is awkward to angle it proper for the camera.
That’s like asking why Scarlett Johansson doesn’t give martial arts lessons because she plays black widow.
The skills that make porn look good and the skills that make you good at sex may be distantly related but any overlap is a coincidence.
You’re better off learning how to make friends and build relationships with people.
Say it with me, porn is nothing like sex
Porn is missing a lot of things that are necessary for good sex - how often are you seeing lube or condoms?
Beyond that - other than shallow plots, you get blow job, jack hammer vaginal, jack hammer anal. Moaning that is performative rather than out of genuine pleasure.
I think a lot of young men are mislead by porn and peers into thinking there are magical Techniques ™ that make you a sex star, when the far more complicated reality is that you have to understand your partners body.
For example, most people enjoy receiving oral sex. You might assume that giving oral to your partner in foreplay is a good thing.However, I cannot fucking stand receiving oral and it absolutely ruins sex for me, especially when I have communicated ahead of time that I do not want it. I actually want jackhammer and blow because that ties into my own mappings of sexual pleasure. This is not what the vast majority of people want nor what culture tells us to want, but likely neither are your particular sexual desires. The best sex comes from when you connect with what they want too.
Good sex is about connecting with someone in a way such that your pleasure is tied up in making them feel pleasure but also knowing that your pleasure matters to them too. A complicated relationship ego death dance with the idea that your bodies are made to make each other cum, which is not the same as learning mechanical techniques like you would to master a claw game. This is not what porn can possibly depict or offer.
Okay. Uh. Relationships? Really?
Let me clue you in: most people in porn do not have great long term relationships. Many don’t have them at all. I’ve known a few women IRL that were either in porn, or worked as escorts in one capacity or another. Their personal relationships tended to be volatile, at best, because it’s really hard to separate out the things you do as a professional from what you do personally, especially when they look almost exactly the same.
First, I think something like this does exist. I’ve heard ads for a service that sounded similar to this this on the Savage Love podcast.
Second, anyone interested in this topic should check out a new docu series on Nebula called Goonworld.
In Goonworld, video essayist FD Signifier explores America’s simultaneous obsession with both enjoying and punishing pornography, sex workers, and the performance of sex.
It’s on episode two, and it’s very good.
While I think you are on the right idea I think someone else in the sex industry are more qualified. Most sex workers do lots of teaching of their clients in their jobs. So they should be teaching a master class.
As it stands lots of them already do. Lots of kink books are written by sex workers / pro Dommes / educators. They are worth a read
there are books regarding this? I never knew that before.
Kink books? Loads of them. I recommend The New Bottoming and New Topping book are classics and not so new anymore. They are broad and expansive with good references to get more specific books if you want to.
Nice! It would be more beneficial for me than learning sex from vids.
I’ve found them both interesting and helpful.
i dont think pornstars have meaningful relationships, if not superficial. they do they get into relationships but its usually with other pornstars, often times you hear them breakup almost always very shortly after getting together. because they are"open relationship or polyamarous. and some get into the porn business because they like having sex.
its mostly acting, and they mostly choose hot, white , women in straigtht relationship, men are usually muscular, abs,tall, white. they know thier target audience both straight and same sex.
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They don’t live long enough.
Probably a sexologist would be better for that than a pornstar, since porn is about looking good, not feeling good
There are quite a few porn stars who have become sexologists and sex therapists.
They don’t need to be mutually exclusive.
They don’t need to be mutually exclusive.
They aren’t exclusive, but they aren’t the same thing, so there’s no real confirmation that a pornstar knows more than your average woman on, enjoyable sex rather than looking like she enjoys it.
Concept of Pornstars teaching satisfying sex is to me on par with WWE wrestlers teaching self defense classes. Sure some WWE wrestlers probably have actual training in that category. But there’s probably more people with just a focus on actual self defense fighting that could do the job better.
I didn’t say they were. I offered the fact that there are quite a few people out there that are both porn actors and sexologists.
Pornography is (typically) not just filming people having sex. It’s acting. The positions and sex acts chosen are ones that film well and are appealing to the target audience as fantasy, not ones that are necessarily the most pleasing. There is also no universally pleasing sex act.
For the same reason the stars of Grey’s Anatomy don’t teach at medical schools.
Acting isn’t real.
But the cast of Scrubs did teach at a medical school.
Sex and porn are very different things. A lot of young men enter into sex imitating porn, and the results tend to be terrible.
In reality good sex is more about communication and trust than about being able to pull of crazy stunts. And once you have a good connection with someone exploring stuff is part of the fun, not something you’d like to outsource to a professional.
Of course sexologists can play an important role and people can take inspiration from wherrver, but it is really about something completely different. Porn does a lot of harm in general.
Nina Hartley made me better at cunnilingus. I had one ex who said, “How do you know!?” Well, that’s how.
I 100% pass that exact video on to people who want to know how to be better at eating pussy with the caveat that most women will go wild for about 1/3 of the demonstrated techniques. Which third seems to be entirely unique woman to woman.
I think I saw the same video. My partner at the time was very pleased.
Where can you even get these? They are from the 1990s
That doesn’t mean they don’t still exist. Also she wrote the book in 2006.
If you’re a Xennial its easy. Go back in time and search through your dad’s wardrobe. That’s how I watched it.
Did you learn anything?
I like to think so, in all seriousness it was quite useful. Really emphasised importance of foreplay and safe sex (including how to use a condom) which when the time came as a teenager was invaluable.
