It can peak up into women’s mid-40s, not at 30. But you are correct, women in their 30s and 40s tend to be hornier.

I believe in studies it’s been about once a month for women and once a week for men as the average.

The original comment had no qualifiers about age.

The study goes into detail for different age brackets.

Not nearly enough info here to make any references. What?

The baby stages are SO HARD. For many reasons that aren’t as obvious as the most common ones like sleep. Sometimes just committing to snuggling naked was enough to reconnect and sometimes it would lead to sex that we didn’t think we had the energy for. Lots of little compromises until the babies get a little older.

Mostly you two just have to get through this together and if your communication is good, you’ll be good. They grow way faster than it seems when you’re in the early trenches of parenthood!

I think it varies enough that calling it “normal” is inaccurate.

in studies it’s been about once a month for women and once a week for men as the average

I was curious and you’re totally correct!

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Everyone is different.

I was personally still having sex about 1-2 times a week once I could after giving birth. There was a point I was having sex multiple times a day with multiple people. Frequency at this point is much lower at around once every two weeks.

It doesn’t bother me because my husband and I have a lot of physical touch and intimacy outside of sex. So matching his libido is no problem. My orgasms aren’t his responsibility, that’s what masturbation is for. Sex is only fun when there isn’t stress and pressure around it.

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My wife and I started having sex only once a week post-baby, and its caused us to seek therapy…

Is that because once a week is not enough for you or for her?

I really want to stress that once a week with a baby is frequent.

Well, I wish you luck then.

You’re forgetting the large percentage of adults with children. That will also dampen sex frequency.

I wish I could find another partner with a higher libido, because it’s a strain on our relationship.

If once a week isn’t compromise enough, maybe you should be honest with her and find a higher libido partner. Once a week is still rather frequent but I understand that isn’t soothing to hear when you are the one with the higher libido.

(I say this as the higher libido partner in my relationship)

Haha well you’re not alone at least, I tend to recommend Savage Love pretty often, too. We’ll get the entirety of Lemmy to be more open-minded about sex whether they like it or not lol

I love how many shout-outs Dan Savage gets here. Great recommendation!!

It’s not normal to suppress your libido to fit in.

Hahah this is awesome. I definitely will 💕

Moistening hahaha. I might copy that phrase!

Also I can’t lie, knowing you’re a woman makes your posts that much hotter. Thanks! Haha

Maybe yours will, maybe you got lucky with a real stable drive. It’s all a guessing game when it comes down to individuals!

Your comments resonated with me, I’m not dissimilar to you honestly hahaha. Cum is hot!

I never got into the bodice-ripper novels, but there’s definitely some literotica mixed in with visual porn in my preferences.

Mostly visual though.

It’s been nice to see that women who enjoy the written word have an avenue to be as horny as they like without as much judgment lately though haha

I’ve appreciated your posts a time or two myself. I’d say my usual is every other day, but I’d also say you’re totally normal with your frequency as well.

Women’s sex drives tend to rise as we age. Enjoy the ride!

Have you seen the type of books 30 something women consume?

We be horny out here.