

I’m not sure if this what you’re after, but it sounded to me that you were describing monitoring. Might be worth your checking out librenms or zabbix or checkmk. Those would give you a good overview of the health of your stuff and keep track of what’s where.
There’s definitely nothing magic about ports 443 and 80. The risk is always that the underlying service will provide a vulnerability through which attackers could find a way. Any port presents an opportunity for attack; the security of the service is the is what makes it safe or not.
I’d argue that long tested services like
ssh
, absent misconfiguration, are at least as safe as most reverse proxies. That doesn’t mean to say that people won’t try to break in via port 22. They sure will—they try on web ports too.