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Cake day: March 8th, 2026

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  • Right, so your criticism boils down to you being jealous of his nice job and also being mad he isn’t appreciative enough about it.

    Grow up man, fucking deal with it. Sourcing and posting a whole ass meme to smear a person because you think they aren’t being thankfull enough about their job is some freak ass shit, and not in the good way.

    Please get a hobby or something, instead of sitting here, roleplaying as some sort of privilege police-force.





  • You:

    “all relationships are unique, and there are no (there are, but there shouldn’t be) guidelines on what makes a relationship real or not […] build your own relationship however you want/need/able”

    Also you

    “I still think monogomy is unethical and it’s cruel to expect that of a partner” (paraphrased)

    Lol, lmao even

    Not very relationship-anarchic of you to hierarchisize relationships, with some being inherently more ethical than others





  • I don’t agree with your twist of my analogy. I expect you to be honest about a meal you serve to me if you know i care about its contents, just as i expect that you are honest about any other thing you know i find important. IMO thats the core of respect, and respect in a relationship is a huge thing for me.

    So it might seem inherently irrational to you, i just dont get why that matters at all. Again, in my view, how the person i care about, feel about a particular thing that’s important to them, supersedes how i personally feel about it, because i care about - and respect - the PERSON, not the thing in question.


  • That i don’t get at all. I really don’t think it’s too much to expect honesty from your significant other. In my world, that’s about the one person where you owe absolute honesty, all other relations yeah lying ain’t THAT big a deal.

    Lying to yourself (breaking a diet) i agree is a victimless crime, but lying to others isn’t, as that is at the expense of the person being deceived. Lying to a random ass person is of course much less a deal than lying to your significant other, and in both situations it’s of course also dependant on the thing being lied about. A vegetarian would be very mad about being told a lie that the meal they were being served is vegetarian if it actually contained meat, and rightfully so imo.

    In i think that might be getting to the core of it. It might not be a big deal to you, and that’s of course totally okay and your right and just as natural as any other proposition, BUT, failing to recognize that this might be important to the person, and then proceed to lie about that thing just because you yourself don’t think it’s that big a deal, is not okay in my book.

    For me, it’s about respecting the internal worldview of the other person, and recognizing that it is just as important as my own. If something is a deal breaker for my partner, i don’t give a rats ass how important I think it is, what’s important is respecting that my partner cares a great deal about it. And if my partner cannot show the same towards me, that’s not a relationship i want to be in. And we do all have the right to say no to a relationship we don’t want, right?