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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • Back in my home town, they built something that was clearly a cell tower, then just … Essentially glued a few fake pine tree branches to it.

    They didn’t even bother to make the tower look vaguely trunk-like. It’s still matte grey and you can clearly see the antennae attached to the top. When I say “a few fake pine tree branches,” I’m not exaggerating; it’s been a few years so I don’t remember precisely, but it’s no more than five throughout the entire height of a cell tower. Mostly clustered together.







  • See, that’s exactly right.

    For example, at the moment the door to my garage - which has one of the smart locks I mentioned - doesn’t always latch properly. Especially when closed by a distracted five-year-old. The lock will usually mark itself “jammed” if it can’t find the proper landing place, but it won’t always. So, until fixing the door, I can’t trust it even if I automate it. (For this one I installed a camera in my garage so that I can at least make sure the garage doors are closed; we live in a safe area so that’s enough to satisfy me for the time being.)

    Another issue is that we have - I believe - eight external doors. I don’t want to maintain the batteries for eight external locks (the ones I have use four AA each), so I can’t be certain all of them are locked without checking.

    We only use three with any frequency, though, so I installed smart locks on two of them and make sure to check the third and at least glance at the others every night on my way to bed (The dumb one is one I consider fairly protected, as it’s in my back yard, and also it’s immediately below where I sleep, so it doesn’t worry me too much.)

    But yeah. Routine and automation are my thing. I’m still working on it in this house, though.

    Thanks!


  • Judgemental or not, you’re not wrong. Enabling one’s anxiety will not reduce said anxiety. I knew that when I set everything up and I think about it every time I check.

    But I’m physically limited (not disabled, just enough to make things harder) and my general concern about the state of my home isn’t going away, so being able to check things without getting up is an immediate comfort that sometimes lets me get back to sleep more easily, even if long term it’s damaging to my psyche.

    Thank you for the apology, though it was unneeded, and the empathy.



  • This is most of why I’ve installed any “smart” devices in my house. If I’m up at 4am with anxiety, I can check most things that inspire it for me (are my door locks engaged, can my cameras see anything concerning, is my young kid in bed and breathing, etc.) without getting up. Some of those I can even rectify remotely; for example, I can lock my doors through the app if someone forgot to.

    As a result, I’ve developed a new thing about which to worry: what have I forgotten to check?



  • One time, I bought a giant picture of a spaceship taking off. I brought it home and proudly showed my then girlfriend and our mutual friend, who was visiting. The friend said “nice! Where’s it going?”

    I didn’t know the destination of this particular space flight. I had impulsively bought it at a thrift store and done no research. I thought about it for a minute, then said " … Space?"

    Turns out she was asking where I was planning to hang the picture in the house.


  • Moisture never really contributed. As I said elsewhere in this thread, I’ve never peed myself as an adult. However, I’ve primarily traveled in jeans and the feeling granted by the air conditioning seat feels exactly how I think it would feel if I wet myself, then let it dry in my jeans. I haven’t tested that though.






  • Ah, mine never did anything but right below the butt, so perhaps that’s why I feel differently. The main car in question was also a 2014, so perhaps the technology hadn’t been fully developed by then. It was also “air conditioned” rather than “ventilated,” but I’m not sure if there’s a difference other than the name.

    Though I’m sorry I can’t share the joy, it’s great that you benefitted!