dandelion (she/her)

I have a “security blanket” too, but it’s a pillow I was given as a small child.

I’ve also felt ashamed for sleeping with it, it feels like it makes me infantile or not grown up, so I put it in a closet for many years. The past year or two, though, I’ve realized the comfort is more important to me than feeling ashamed, so I sleep with the pillow every night, usually I hug the pillow and sleep with it against me. It’s one of the few such comforts, and nothing else comforts me like it - even other pillows or plushes I have tried.

definitely not turkey tail

they look a lot like reishi to me, tbh - definitely some kind of Ganoderma spp. but probably not the artist conk, and unless it’s hemlock I doubt it’s G. tsugae, and since G. lucidum is only in Asia it’s not that. There are like 16 different reishi species native to North America, so it’s one of those.

If the tree is a conifer, it’s possible it could be a reishi look-alike, the species complex Fomitopsis pinicola, but it doesn’t look like a conifer to me, so I still think it’s a reishi.

There are many, many shelf fungi, but not all of them are reishi look-alikes so I think this is probably just reishi, tbh.

reishi, neat!

I make health tonics with these 😁

I am particular about forks and spoons, preferring they are thin and relatively straight - this fork looks too thick, but I don’t mind how narrow it is

I had to scroll too far to find this answer.

Most of the criticism of it I’ve seen is about how the concept’s been warped to mean women aren’t putting out enough for specific men.

this is it in a nutshell. Men clearly experience loneliness, what’s problematic is the way “male loneliness” has been weaponized against women, as if it’s not a byproduct of patriarchy but actually a result of women’s neglect (or worse, an insidious assumption that women have an obligation to date men because they are lonely).

honestly half the posts I upvote end up being from @LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone, cheers friend - you consistently brighten my day 💚

thank you, so helpful! I had made it to the themes but was confused by the options and didn’t think to scroll 😄

where do you find that setting?

I’m also on Adroid, here’s what it looks like for me:

yes, we already live in that world I think, programmers were always a bit loose on standards, so it makes sense it would slip to new lows. Not sure at what point there will be consequences catastrophic enough that regulations kick in and we start requiring minimal education like other trades (an engineer in any other field has to be licensed and educated, but in software we trust infrastructure to anyone, and there are no guard rails to prevent disaster, it’s all “self-regulated”).

I see people at work (whose backgrounds are as soldiers or line cooks, not computer science majors) using AI to do their jobs.

It’s incredible to me, how incapable the workers are, unable to think through basic problems on their own. We joked about people relying too much on Q&A sites like StackOverflow in the past, but this is an entirely new level of normalized incompetence.

the last paragraph is just saying the young programmers who embrace using AI to generate code are more productive and thus more competitive.

10x refers to being ten times more productive or useful than the average programmer, or a programmer as productive as ten other programmers.

Shipping is when you put out a new feature or product, roughly the same meaning as launching.

AI-native is a buzzword for programmers who have only vibe coded (i.e. used AI tools to do the coding and thinking for them), as opposed to normal / experienced devs who might be more skeptical or hesitant to embrace AI tools.

are you describing a grocery store?

oh my god

agreed, the app is not defensible, but a lot of men are enjoying and justifying the doxxing of the women users of the app as justice served, and I think that’s abhorrent

one in three is only sexual and physical violence from an intimate partner, your one in nine stat includes sexual harassment, the stat is even higher for women if you include sexual harassment:

https://interactive.unwomen.org/multimedia/infographic/violenceagainstwomen/en/index.html

it’s not clear to me the sexual violence one in nine men experience are primarily caused by women, either - LGBT+ men such as trans men are at much higher risk of domestic and sexual violence …

are men concerned for their safety dating women? Has one in three men experienced sexual or physical violence at the hands of their female partners?

Tea is marketed as a “dating safety tool” for women, and it pledges to donate ten percent of its revenue to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. …

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The app enables the photos to be run through a reverse image search, enabling them to run a basic background check, check against public sex offender databases, and check for photos that might get flagged as being used in “catfishing” — misrepresenting one’s identity online.

The app also features a “Tea Party Group Chat,” which allows users to directly share information about men, and has a rating function, which allows users to share their experiences with Yelp-style reviews, awarding men a “green flag” or a “red flag.”

https://www.cnn.com/2025/07/25/us/tea-app-dating-privacy-cec

so the solution to misogyny is to git gud?

The most notable person in my life that is like this might genuinely wish she were tall, but she also wishes to be strong and muscular and so on. I always wonder how she would actually feel if she had that body though.

yeah, every smol girl talks about how they wish they were tall, but they have no idea how embarrassing it is, the way it invalidates your femininity and so on

I am not sure that’s true, language can absolutely be misused, when an individual uses a word in a way nobody recognizes, it fails to function as language and is worth considering genuinely misused. It’s only when a “misuse” gains enough traction that people can effectively use it to communicate that it is an evolution rather than a misuse.

The point is that the language is about use, e.g. getting a concept across, and it can absolutely fail or be applied incorrectly.

Take for example if a variety of mugs are on a table and I wanted the red mug. If I said “pass me the green mug”, that would be a misuse of “green” as meaning red, and it would fail to communicate, as long as there are other mugs and my meaning cannot be inferred.

If there is clearly only one mug, a person might think I was mistaken or colorblind and still get my intended meaning, but it would still be considered a misuse of “green”.

If enough people used “green” to mean red, maybe because my family thought the mistake was funny and adopted “green” to mean red as an in-joke, it might grow out of being a misuse into a new meaning.

The same thing is happening when white children misuse AAVE and generate slang, “gyatt” for example meaning “god” as in “gyatt damn” becomes mistakenly applied to mean a butt because of misunderstanding about how gyatt was originally used. The misuse becomes new slang, but it could have easily remained an obscure and forgotten misuse if it didn’t catch-on with enough people such that it took on a new meaning.