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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • I understand that this information is against your internal narrative, but a quick look at data for 2021 shows:

    One in two women and one in five men felt unsafe walking alone after dark in a busy public place.

    And data from 2022 shows 45% for the same measure.

    As for harassment:

    2022 - 55% of women 16-34 felt harassed

    2021 - Three out of five, 60% felt harassed during the year.

    Twice as many women reported being harassed as men, and several reported changing their behaviour because of harassment.

    This is also echoed in international studies over multiple cultures. Women are much more often harassed than men, almost exclusively by men, and have more limited freedoms, expressions and rights than men.

    This is not controversial, it is well established in study after study, there is an actual right answer to this, and it’s not the one you’re proposing.

    How is it that you keep ignoring data when faced with it, and instead of presenting supportive data resort to arguing feelings and whataboutisms?

    Edit: Link to 2022 raw data









  • It looks like a reasonable buy for what you’re probably used to in terms of cooking, convenience and diet. As long as you get at least one cooked meal in you each day, you’re doing good. Don’t sweat it if you don’t want to, there’s plenty of other things to worry about.

    If you are looking for some input, I would probably add more varied sources of protein (lentils, nuts, eggs, beans) and fiber (carrots, cabbage, kale, wholegrain), but I also live on another continent and have both other availability and tradition than you might.

    If you’re worried that your food is too expensive, there’s plenty of suggestions in the other replies better geared toward US markets, but I’ll also add that you could make groceries last much longer by learning a bit more about cooking. A lot can be gained by using/substituting with local or seasonal ingredients, as well as re-using leftovers and scraps in creative ways.

    If learning cooking is a steep lifestyle change, you could also find a group to share the burden with. Do weekly meal preps together, or for each other, or do batch cooking of condiments/pickles/sauces and swap with each other. It’s a fun way to learn from each other, keep to the habit, and might even be a nice way to get to know someone.

    Cooking 3 dishes (to get enough variety) for the week’s meal prep is a big ask, but you could do one batch each and swap with a couple of friends.

    Doing batch cooking and canning of sauces is also an excellent way to use up ingredients that are on their way out. Found cheap second assortment tomatoes on a farmer’s market? Pasta sauce for a week! Got too much milk? Make some cheese! Someone’s apple tree yielding too much fruit? Apple sauce, dried apple crisp/cubes/snacks, base for indian/far east curries/stews, in salads, drinks, snacks as fresh whole apples or wedges, made into jam/marmelade, used as substitute for potatoes or tomatoes, and/or as part of delicious pie or other dessert.

    Also: leftovers can almost always be put into a pie crust (water, flour, butter/oil), covered with shredded cheese, and become a Quiche du semaine/pie of the week. With practice you’ll find how much of carbs, protein, fibers and flavouring you prefer in it, and you’ll make an actual great dish you look forward to.





  • Because it has been repeatedly shown that better social connections help get the right stuff done.

    Trust, empathy, and liking each other allows for a generosity in dealings that is very conducive to communication, to problem solving, to finding ways to affect change in the organisation, to train/socialise workers into effective practices, to notice when the work is unbalanced or unaligned with the employee, to correct poor behaviour, and many more reasons.

    A competent event organiser could plan to accommodate your introvert preference, and still achieve the prosocial goals.

    You could have interactions in smaller groups at a time, have activities/breaks with social recovery (like solo or silent activities, spa/massage/meditation, simulators/noisy activities/activities in heavy gear), have solo parts of group activities (like solo brainstorms or reflective walks), have planned recovery time, etc.

    If your social anxiety is that bad, you might need an exemption for health reasons, in the same way a ski trip could exempt someone with a broken leg.

    But at least healthy people, including introverts, seemingly benefit immensely from prosocial activities at a workplace.