I don’t mean to give you unrequested advice so apologies if I come across as dismissive of your experience. I just feel like I can add some points that people in your situation might benefit from.

And that is to not chase love in itself. I found that as I got older I also accepted that I would grow old without a romantic relationship. Though I did invest time in my friendship relationships, and that did work.

While being somewhat saddened by it, I accepted that the chances of me finding love through dating apps was low, in particular because I don’t want to have kids, which obviously is a deal-breaker for many people. So my approach there was to just try to enjoy the moment without expectations and without judgement. If I got a match I’d try to have a fun conversation, if it was fun I’d try to set up a date, and if that was fun I’d keep it going. Just going for having an enjoyable time at that moment without expectations. It made even the dates that weren’t going anywhere long term enjoyable experiences, with the occasional opportunity for physical intimacy with someone who was on the same page about expectations. I could have lived like that but just got plain lucky this year I think. For me it still feels amazing to have happened so I’m not going to type lies and say it will happen for everyone. But I went into this relationship with no expectations either so regardless of what happens in the future I will treasure what is happening now, as I’m a relationship with the most amazing woman who adores aspects of me that would often be things other dates told me made me seem immature and obsessive.

So, you and people that relate to you, I genuinely wish you happiness and good things. In all aspects of life. But please don’t give up on meeting new people if you can, you might make someone else happy just by existing. Or if not you could at least give them a nice date.

Do you still have carpets? I find that carpets are much bigger indicators of whether my dust mite allergy will kick up rather than visible dust that’s flowing around. Best of luck in any case.

Yeah, I get surgery sometimes is pushed unnecessary but in my case my femur head made me have a FAI angle of only 35 degrees. Which caused physical damage to the point of oedema, osteoporosis, a cyst and shredded connective tissue. No PT is going to solve that. Recovery took over a year but at least I can now train 4-5 times a week again when before I was lucky if I could go once every two weeks.

And fuck chiropractors. I’m still angry at my former physician for referring me to a quack who cracked my neck for something that literally was a congenital problem with my femur head. I suppose I should have gotten a second opinion but I brought this up from when I was twenty untill in my thirties. It was only spotted when I got a full body RX for something else.

Oh I know not to fight when something is lost, but in nogi my shit just gets wrecked superfast because it’s so explosive and people treat your neck like it’s a handle.

I’ve been doing martial arts in general for almost 30 years now, and I definitely was too careless when I was young. Bad advice about injuries where I got sent to a chiropractor instead of a surgeon meant I already had to get hip surgery before I had turned 40. (Bad FAI angles aggravated by trying to break through the pain, for over a decade, since I believed everyone I was being lazy and soft) I’m luckily more careful now, but there’s still days where I’m in pain just from walking or driving my car.

BJJ will keep you mentally young but your body will start feeling a lot older. Upside is that it’ll be able to do more cool stuff.

Remember that you can tell him you’re too poor for that. Because even to get in the supporting classes you need to be quite a bit more than just “wealthy”.

I wish I could say the same but if you want to date you have to here. I despise and absolutely hate how you have to you use a phone number to register. And then every contact you have can add you to a group so everyone there now can have your number.

I’ve had a stalker before and I hate that stuff like that makes it trivially easy for her to get my number again. I literally can’t understand how women are okay with absolutely shitty systems like this. I really can’t repeat enough how much I strongly hate WhatsApp and how everyone else thinks it’s so good for exactly the reason that I hate it. It’s too easy to send messages despite me never giving you my number to begin with. SMS is the same but you can’t add me to a group without my permission and share my number with a group of people I don’t know.

Yes, MM DD YY only makes sense when you’re speaking

For many people it doesn’t. It’s something that’s exclusive to the US. In British English it’s day before month when speaking.

It’s something that is taught in school as “remember that the Americans say date before month so you don’t get confused”. But in a business context it’s bloody annoying you don’t switch to the international standard.

In British English you say the date before the month as well. I know that even saying the month first sounds very jarring too me.

I paid for sync for Reddit, I donated to my Lemmy instance and I’ll pay for Sync for Lemmy once I decide for myself whether I take the subscription, simply ad free or one time payment for ultra. As there’s still fixes to the pricing going on I’ll wait out for that

I guess I’m biased with paying for software since I work at a company that makes software it also offers in its’ own SaaS platform. I literally maintain the infrastructure so I’m intimately familiar with those costs. I appreciate anyone who offers software and service for free. But there’s always a cost and if you want premium service you’ll need to pay for it.

That is ofcourse another justification and easy one since paying for sync is almost nothing to me. I do hope the free Sync keeps being a good alternative for anyone who wants to try it.