It’s not that having a preference is problematic. There’s a huge difference between trans/disabled chasing and being open to dating trans and people with disabilities. Chasing is a sort of fetishization mixed in with some dumb ideas about what masculinity is. Whereas a preference in dating is more along the lines of ‘i like you and that part of you, you like me, let’s do things together that we like.’ The difference is about respect and equality in the relationship.
I don’t know what your definition of “chasing” is, but whatever it may be it seems to be independent of the group that’s being “chased”.
So in that case you could say “chasing” is bad while a preference is not, completely regardless of whether you’re talking about trans people, disabled people or any other group.
It’s not that having a preference is problematic. There’s a huge difference between trans/disabled chasing and being open to dating trans and people with disabilities. Chasing is a sort of fetishization mixed in with some dumb ideas about what masculinity is. Whereas a preference in dating is more along the lines of ‘i like you and that part of you, you like me, let’s do things together that we like.’ The difference is about respect and equality in the relationship.
I don’t know what your definition of “chasing” is, but whatever it may be it seems to be independent of the group that’s being “chased”.
So in that case you could say “chasing” is bad while a preference is not, completely regardless of whether you’re talking about trans people, disabled people or any other group.