Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.
Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.
I make great money, around 90k, probably 95 next year. I put over 500$/month to my RRSP.
I wasted a ton of money on the way here. A utilitarian solution would have been, don’t waste that money.
It’s not about entitlement, it’s about being smart. My kids, nieces and nephews will have savings from an early age and will not waste money paying interest if I play my cards right. I think it’s my responsibility to make sure the resources we have are utilised in the best way, being I want all of us to be happy and successful.
Parents say they want their children to be successful, it’s a clown choice to do nothing to support that when there’s the option to do something.
I’m glad you feel that way. And I’m happy you make a decent living. You’re living the life I want to live. If I had the money to support my family that way, I would. But I don’t have that kind of money. And I STILL feel that I am not obligated to any of my parents money. My parents did more than give me money, my parents taught me how to wipe my but, pay a bill, and have a good work ethic. And I believe I will never make an income of 90k. Not for lack of effort, but because I like the job I have, despite it not (nor will it ever) pay well.
But that’s just the way the world works. Some people get better jobs and save it for themselves, and some people save it for their family. I wish everyone could live the latter life, but that’s just not a sane way of thinking.
I won’t ask my parents for money, just like I would never ask you for a hand out. I will earn my way in life, and if that means I’ll never make enough to live comfortably, then I guess that’s the hand I’ve been delt. But not matter what happens, I’ll always be proud to tell everyone: hey, I live on my own. Hey, I bought that car with my own money. No my parents didn’t give me any of it.
Maybe I’m just too conceited to ask for money, but I want to live my life the way I want, and that’s by earning everything I have. On my own. With my own efforts. And if you think that’s a horrible way of living, then maybe I am wrong for thinking that way. Maybe I should tell my parents I deserve their money. But I won’t, and probably never will, and I believe wholeheartedly that my way of thinking is the right way.
I thank you for debating with me over all of this. It’s nice to see things from a different angle. I hope you gleaned some insight as well. I’m not trying to spark anger, just trying to get people to see things from a different perspective. But I think it’s time we dropped the subject, the only thing this conversation is doing at this point, is making us go round and round in circles and letting our emotions take hold of us. Have a good day sir/ma’am and I hope your life continues in the way you want it.
If you want to tell the internet that you win this argument, then I will concede it to you.
Yeah you are definitely using emotionally charged language to talk about this.
You should ask yourself why decisions around money reflect on your self image, ie “conceit” “deserve”.
I apologize if I hurt your feelings or made you feel bad. That was not my intention. I still feel the way I do about the situation, but I’m glad to see things from a different point of view.