Inspired by a comment in another thread, what was the path you took over your life, through the various online social media we’ve had?
By way of example, I started in Yahoo chatrooms, to a little bit of Myspace and private forums, to ICQ and IRC, to no online socials for awhile, to facebook, to 4chan, to reddit, ending up here on lemmy.
I’ve never used twitter, insta, tiktok, etc for any length of time.
If you’d like, your native language and a rough estimate of your age can be included for additional context.
ICQ †
StudiVZ †
Facebook †
4chan †
WhatsApp †
Reddit †
Feddit
I did make a video for Instagram once that got several million views, but that was on my employer’s account.
I’m an elder millennial Germanlocal dial-up BBSs sharing gif and wav clips and chatting about anything that you felt like at the moment
AOL chatrooms
free hosted forums on Anglefire and Geocities
Larger forums(SA, Fark, etc)
FB/instagram
Lemmy/Piefed
I think that would be my path as it relates to communities where I actually ended up having a social community involved. I would say that it also is a direct increase in toxicity as it works downward. I find Lemmy/Piefed just as toxic as any other platform but the lack of a forced algorithm lets me basically mute all of the negative content sources and it’s niche enough that you can actually mute the negative influence, which makes for a pleasant experience.
Not all of these are social media sites, but this list is my social internet path
Bolt dot com & SciFi channel chatrooms
AIM & Yahoo chatrooms
ICQ & IRC
Soulseek (I count it because I used to hang in the chatrooms quite a bit)
Eyeball chat, then followed friends to Camfrog chat, before both were enshittified
MySpace
Facebook and dabbling in Instagram
Reddit, left after Apollo went offline
Mastadon and dabbled in Snapchat
Threads
BlueSky, still here
Lemmy then Piefed, still here
IRC
ICQ
MSN messenger
there was a site where you could post 2 choice questions that people could answer and comment on, I forget the name but I used that a lot
Facebook
Digg
Reddit
Lemmy… I had a Lemm.ee account and that died. Had a lemmynsfw account and that died. Apparently lemmy.ml has a bad reputation. Instances defederate from each other. I just want to see memes without the drama. Don’t know where to post to get more than a handful of people to see my post. I’m rapidly losing interest in the fediverse.
Back to books, podcasts and RSS… Social media has nothing worthwhile for me.
A good rule for picking an instance is to find one with very few blocked instances and a big number of communities. You see almost everything and It’s less likely to be deferated/disappear because it has a lot of content. Lemmy.zip is a good example. Lemme.ee was just unfortunate.
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Reddit
LemmyWhen I was in school back in the early days, I tried typing a random “wherearemypants.com” and it led to this forum run by some random guy in Texas for him and his friends. I made an account and just insinuated myself into this group of adults, and honestly, it was the golden age of social media for me. Absolutely nothing was monetized, just people sharing links and chatting about stuff.
Eventually he shut it down and I ended up on myspace>facebook>reddit>lemmy.
Usenet (and still there), mailing lists (hooray for any that use schleuder), a bit of IRC (though I was never one for quick fire & forget statements, today I’m good with Signal/Molly/Gurk and XMPP; Matrix never appealed to me), lot’s of Forums (mostly related to my favourite games at the times), some twitter (though I was never really comfortable with the hustle to gain more visibility through large follower numbers), switched over to identi.ca (and eventually many different ActivityPub servers, currently one Akkoma and one Lemmy; not interested in PixelFed, though it helps I dislike the dev’s attitude; PeerTube could be interesting as a consumer, but the UX still feels atrocious; I tend to leave my name/handle behind when switching, I’ll inform some people important to me, but I am quite happy not having to maintain friendships and a reputation, gotta do that in meatspace, and I find it taxing even there). Lurked 4chan a couple years, but was never comfortable engaging, too much “fake” being a horrible person. Was relatively active on reddit, but ever since the redesign I felt it was too cumbersome to use (yes, old., I know, but who wants to rely on a legacy version being available?), plus their corporate decisions were pissing me off more and more (Yeah, I’m a pretty stout software freedom person, down to using libreboot & canoeboot, though I no longer wish to associate myself with the FSF, given their tone-deaf handling of the whole RMS situation), so, yeah, eventually lemmy. I’m more quiet than I used to be, getting older, I suppose, but I was also never that into anything “social” in the first place (I’m an Aspie, who’d have thunk?), so I mostly lurk and only post when I feel I can actually contribute something meaningful.
I first got internet access in 2010. Phones didn’t exist in 2010s… well I didn’t have one at least.
So I just… made a facebook to talk with school friends when I’m at home… I only ever had like single digits of people to add… like I didn’t speak much English and hard to connect with anyone that didn’t speak Cantonese (or Mandarin). (still typed English on the chat tho.
Eventually I left nyc and I just deleted my facebook because I think I just didn’t feel close with them anymore.
I don’t think I even ever “posted” much if at all… I just used it for facebook games, which I eventualy grew out off.
Then I re-made an account to connect with someone back in nyc, then later I just feel like its too awkward to continue chatting since we havent talked for months/years (forgot how long) and I deleted it again after just exchanging a few “oh school in Philly is crazy lots of fights”.
Then I spent some time on some game forums.
Then I found reddit. I just scrolled through the top platforms and a pseudo-anonymous platform is exactly what I wanted… being an introvert.
I mostly scrolled, never posted much. Didn’t have an account most of the time, only occasionally made throwaways to comment then nuke it in a month or so… don’t even remember any of the usernames I used.
Then everything changed when the Fire Nation attacked on June 12, 2023
Usenet then Slashdot and a forum on a website that no longer exists.
Once I got Internet at home, there were a few online chatrooms that were web based, but were basically IRC. It looks like one of those sites still exists, but if it’s the same one I used (and Yahoo used as a proxy) it’s not at the URL I used it at. Also either I’ve forgotten my details or I’ve been deleted (or it’s a knock-off).
Then Digg, Reddit, Twitter and now the Fediverse.
Oh and throw Discord in there too somewhere towards the latter end.
Dishonourable mentions: MyYearbook and Tagged.com. The former was a bit like old-school MySpace, but it became a soulless dating site called MeetMe with none of the fun Flash games and chat. Tagged was basically a (surprisingly smut-free) user avatar trading site. Attractive people’s pictures (usually women) could end up worth ridiculous sums of fake money. Like vigintillions of dollars kinds of ridiculous.
Now it seems that both are part of the same company, at least based on how the websites for MeetMe and Tagged look. Very glad I’m out of there.
Neopets
Nexopia
MSN
Facebook
Reddit
Lemmy/Piefed
Aim, msn, Xbox live chat, qq. Xanga. Asian fanatics, soompi, digg. Once Facebook came along that was the thing.
- CompuServe Chat
- Dialup Bulletin Board
- USENET
- Lemmy
Facebook was a horrible mistake. I jumped off when I realized I didn’t want to associate with the people there.
Jumped off Reddit when my app was blocked.
Edit: mid-50’s English speaker (well, American English, if that still counts), also remembered that there was a dialup bulletin board back in the day.
AIM IRC MSN chat rooms TOTSE Livejournal MySpace (barely) Facebook (barely) 4chan Reddit Twitter Mastodon Lemmy
BBS with FidoNet. Then Usenet and gopher before the web was invented. After that it was IRC, then forums.
Does talking to randoms on Kazaa count? Otherwise various forums, uboot, Facebook (shudder), Reddit, Lemmy.
What counts and what doesn’t is pretty fuzzy. I’m just including everything that could reasonably fit, just to keep it simple.








