• Guy_Fieris_Hair@lemmy.world
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    Kids need access to the internet at a super young age these days for school. If you don’t have some sort of filter in place when they are in single digits or tweens you are just negligent. The internet has some dark corners.

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      I don’t mind just filters, but reporting it to the parent doesn’t sit right with me. It probably depends on the parent though

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      Harder the surveillance, harder the kid works to bypass them

      Kids are smart, good on OOP to teach their kids to use a VPN, about dual booting, and more

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        If the kid is old enough to purposely bypass the security, they’re probably around the right age to find some of the stuff on the other side. But you don’t want them accidentally stumbling into it because they searched something seemingly innocent.

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        If the kids old enough to figure out VPNs, dual booting, and all the other pretty simple workarounds then it is what it is. You can’t control everything. I am talking about the little guys. And this dudes kid is googling how to teach crabs to talk. If someone is searching that they probably aren’t ready to get completely unrestricted access because they are probably pretty young. Like I said, single digits or tweens.

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          It is what it is

          If the parents still try to restrict, which most unreasonably will, then the kid will simply grow better at this

          This leads to the kid growing up with confiding in random people more than their family(this might lead to said friends being a bad influence on them, since they didn’t learn how to differentiate good and bad people)

          That or a general sense of distrust and surveillance

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            Parents can literally get sued by the state for letting their children watch inappropriate stuff (at least where I live). You are obligated as a parent to restrict the access of your children to inappropriate media.

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              There’s a HUGE difference between restrictions via blockers and surveillance. I can assure you that no one here is arguing in favour of letting kids watch porn…

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      thinking about my p history and that one video

      Wasn’t quite different back then, it is easier now, and full of advertisements and stuff that make the happy chemicals go brrrr

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      And the proper way is to teach your kids about it and stop treating kids like super fragile glass beings.

      Your city probably has some dark corners too, but you don’t set up geofenced tracking beacons to be alarmed if they stumble slightly off the path you intended them to go.

      Children should feel comfortable enough to talk to you about bad stuff they encounter, not feel frightened, that they broke a rule.

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        By the time I was 17, at least on my windows PC, every search I made was reported. Every setting I touched was reported. Every app I use, and how long, reported. Every startup and shutdown reported. Games with chat features were banned. Online games were banned. Every week on Sunday, an email with all this went to my parents, and my dad would forward it to me as a kind of intimidation that “we know all”…

        And yes, they used geofenced tracking too.

        But I’m a geek, so my Linux laptop and phone were no longer bugged (my only access to other people at the time) by the time I figured it out (around age 16).

        Still had to turn the tracker on so they wouldn’t ask why the location pings stopped though.

        This kind of obsessive control ought to be illegal. I propose privacy rights at age 16, enforceable by fines, with a safe hotline for those with obsessive parents. They were emotionally abusive, control by external restrictions is often only part of the story in cases like mine.

        I’m all for safety filters, but parental controls that can be classified as spyware have no place in a parent-child relationship after the age of 16…

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        If you use these trackers and barge in “hey I saw what you did on the internet, you’re in trouble.” then you’re doing it wrong. Kids need guidance. If you were negligent enough to let your kid roam the city without supervision, you SHOULD have a tracker on them. We’re talking about little kids not 16+. Many young kids get themselves killed or groomed or into some kind of cult online. When that happens to young kids, parents are negligent. When 12 year olds get addicted to porn, negligence. You can guide your children without being an asshole. I know a lot of us grew up either completely neglected or completely terrified to make a mistake, but there is an in-between.

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          When I look outside, there are 5 year olds playing without supervision. They get along just fine.

          Not every country is a paranoid dystopia.

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            Not every state in the US is the same so your comment is mostly based on smug ignorance anyway. It’s not paranoia if you live in a city with a lot of crime etc. You just wanted to try and feel superior. Giving me reddit vibes tbh.

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        The thing is, parents can get sued for not restricting access of their children to inappropriate media. When you think just talking to your children “the right way” and they will suddenly act wise and smart and good all the time you are incredibly naive.